Lots of people do it. I think you might br using your philosophy as an excuse for not reaching your potential. I do now have some practical questions, but what I want to ask is: is it better to create a separately brand new topic, or I could just continue here? Let me rephrase that. Youre the only one feeling sorry for you. terms and conditions. His name is Neal Copperman. I have always been a highly artistic, creative, and imaginative person. Regardless of what you do, though, you will have to buckle down and be very disciplined to achieve your goals. This is a day by day process. I think you should continue to complain about the world. adding to @Thammuz s comment: You will be surprised how much more you like, enjoy, and respect your parents when you are no longer living as a dependent. Two questions: Listen carefully for the difference: To most people, these questions are the same. To join, you must be at least My brother and sister-in-law finally attended one of his concerts. Guess what? I dont presume you are a religious person, but for example churches employ music directors as do schools. Dont wait until youre 40 and wish that you were doing something about your life today. . Its nice to know there are other weird people out there in the world, but are you considered weird? A poet refers to a lifestyle. Stop living from the head up and go out and get life experience, that is. I am 40 years old. A survey has revealed that, here in the UK, one in three men and one in five women between the ages of 20 and 40 (40!) So are you completely financially dependent on your parents? Many people live spiritual lives and follow their dreams. At one point of my life I was very much into eastern/Asian philosophies and what not your post in a way made me reminiscent of that (in which, I thank you!). Using Taoism. These five categories are an excellent starting point to help understand the relationship between ourselves and the reason for working. But seriously. You say you dont like money but lets face it, you need it to live. What will make you truly happy? One thing I see in your comments is the mistake of all or nothing thinking.
And I think its really true,..I surely cant blame the whole world (Planet) for only those few truly bad humans whore selfish and destroyer of everything in the name of profits. You may have some offtime, in which you can continue to write songs. I am lost. Dont turn down opportunities in the form of part-time work. This distinction is very important. The balance of reaching out and holding back is a very hard line to maintain. The average duration of unemployment for workers ages 55 to 64 was 11 months as recently as WebSo my brother is 30 years old, still lives at home, he's unemployed, and no motivation to find work. :). Or, as @Seelix suggested, you could try to parlay your skills into a career. You need to decide which is most important to you: continuing to try and remake the world into an image you can stand, or eating. Then as your life unfolds in the future, you will shift as needed and change your jobs more fluidly to always be in the balance between yourself and society. 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What have been up to during that time achieve your goals like little gems and yourself. But yes many jobs do drain us more than what we get back from the job itself. To help find answers, it becomes necessary to change the question slightly first to understand why you work. Before you say its easy for me to talk having been to Uni, I wouldnt have trouble getting a job in the troubled times were living in, right? You do at some point have to find a way to pay your way though and that may mean like many of us lesser mortals, you have to compromise. It really helps my situation in an instantnow I know what to do especially Im also an unemployed of 49. If you are, that alone would give me the incentive to get a job, any job, just so I could stand on my own, have my own place, my own life. You know, I hate to say this so bluntly but you really sound like someone who always blames something/one else for their own problems. Its just that its not a position everyone can reach, youve got to be really good, and that means learning a lot through experience, which I assume falls in the details you loathe so much. In the first place, unless you hate your parents, too, whats wrong with living with them? All sessions are by appointment only. You need to make a choice. Get a job where you can appeal to peoples better nature. Keep searching for where you belong, is there really any sense in giving up now? The worst thing one can do is sit around waiting for things to get better.
Savor life in all its facets. That is a major dance in itself.
The who are you question tends to get dropped as knowing our nature typically takes a lifetime in learning. Now here is the change in understanding: A wise man once taught me sometimes you just need to change the question you are answering. Why the hell not? You are not insane for rejecting the money system. Where did Asian come in? Its never to late. Redefine your stories. No college no nothing. It just feel so burnt out as well running the same rat race. An author is a job. Working as a Taoist in the United States has been a challenge. Audrey Hepburn. WebThere is a big difference between trying to fix your adult child's ongoing, self-created problems and helping a kid face a life crisis. Heres a guy who has lived on less than $7,000 a year because he refuses to pay taxes for war. A few weeks in, you will need to take some time off to heal for yourself. A really short dude. Theyre losers. And while you can hope to change these things you cant seriously think the universe is all of a sudden going to change to accommodate you. Different will do, but I too know Im different from the mainstream, if you will. Western culture hammers into each person to mainly be their work, and so you are working on releasing decades of that unconscious training. Seriously, you have great answers here. Many angles exist to this topic. We came back to America and were stuck with no work, no opportunity to help like we did over there.
Janet admits shes an extreme enabler who has given Jeff well over $100K, raises his children, and pays all his bills. Youll have 30 more years in the work forcemore than half your life. So many people have died in Japan, people are dying in LIbya. You do not have complete personal responsibility or control. As if to make matter worse, I have always been the type of an obedient, obeying kid who held all my feelings inside (introverted) and never voiced it out to my parents,..but last year was the climax, as I simply couldnt hold any longer,..and I even honestly often almost cried whenever Im seeing some (not many though!) It takes three months for your emotional state to come to balance after a major change like this. This is often true unless, of course, you love your job, then you should stay. We cant always like what happens to us, but we must make the best of it. Remove anything from your life you dont truly need anymore; this helps make you more portable and able to transition into unexpected opportunities later. niki, I really empathize with your situation. Maybe none of them suit you, but at least try to identify them. I will next walk you through looking at why you work. Because, unless you want to start trading stocks or manage a business, thats all money will ever be to you, in practical terms. YOUR LIFE, MOST LIKELY, WILL NOT BE OVER SOON AT 30. THEREFORE, you need to deal with your problems and stop trying to escape with thoughts of deat What do you do? Yet work and life shouldnt be thought of as meaning the same thing. Do you go to small shows by independent artists? As a result, I spend quite a bit of time helping people in midlife crisis, figuring out ways to better find work, revamp their businesses, close a business down, or starting new businesses.
just sayin. but sometimes (or often) I just hate humans, especially seeing how so many of them can be downright greedy, selfish, and have NO concern for their fellow humans, and also Mother Earth. You mentioned that you have been unemployed for 7 years, what have been up to during that time? You only see the world you make. So I need to reinforce this lesson to anyone being laid off: Dont take it personally. I am sure you could find a practical job thats feasible for you to perform, even if it may not come as naturally as your art. To some extent, I can relate to what youre saying, being around the same age. Using motion and personal insights to reinforce your life. If thats still too intertwined with money, perhaps you should go live in the woods for a few weeks Seriously. Showing this is something which isnt unique to the modern age. Chances are you will experience unemployment again, so its best to pace yourself and get some good habits under your belt the first time around. Everyday life is full of minor happy moments. Theres nothing you can do about it. In exploring these with friends, an interesting fact became clear: when people work for reasons that matched their nature, they tended to be content. Unless you are planning to run off into the woods and live off the land (not recommended), you are going to need some source of income. @niki, Older workers also have the longest bouts of unemployment. Smith, Carpenter, Koch (cook), Mason. If you dont need a lot of it to get by, then youre wasting your time, talent and energy hating other people and their chase for money. Enough income to cover basic necessities (food, clothing, shelter, transportation, and healthcare). But know you are not alone in unemployment: Countless people have faced similar problems from unemployment and found a path back into a stronger life. What is somewhat tearing me apart is the fact that I used to study for 4 years & graduated from US (LA) in Business Finance & Management degree, all which also were because of pushed by my Chinese parents & uncle, and afterward went straight back to Indonesia, to work in the running family-business for 7 years, which I eventually quit because I simply couldnt hold it any longer, I have NO interest at all in continuing the business. Attempting to separate our identities and work can be very complicated since the two can become very entangled in a day to day life. Im in the same situation. The unemployment rate for people over 55 is at a record high in the United States in the decade of 2010. You can sit around and mope, or you can take charge. One of your comments really stood out I am a musician/songwriter/composer, but the thing is: I am a very idealistic kind of musician, and I dont like to lower myself down to just write a HIT song that is cheap, low in messages. We are told that we are what we do and that we are fully responsible for what we do. Sleeping too much creates depression, and then that sinks you further away from helping yourself. Also know, when unemployment first happens, most people act with fear. In this case, the question should be shifted to: The main reasons to list could be the following, For survival For consuming For serving For passion/belief For the work itself. Many of the other commenters are trying their best to give you dose of reality, but I want to give you a dose of sympathy. Except maybe the very wealthy or those who work in finance. Dont try to re-do what didnt work Decide (reasonably) when you want to be out of your parents house. how one has to work during times of midlife. If you dont belong in your group, it gets rather awkward. They have a mediocre life handed to them. Having to work in order to live sucks. I am only a worker: all I do and will do suddenly gets forced by that one statement. He developed a following in the area, now plays many area and non-area clubs, colleges and universities. Get out of your parents bank account theyll be retiring soon enough, and theyll need that money for themselves. Release the echo of abuse and create new narratives for your life. There is no one like you, and you may feel alone, but you really are not, there are more like you. My point, like @CaptainHarley said, you need to work in order to support yourself, so think of something you can do as a job, and everything else is called hobbies. At 57 my company went belly up and laid everybody off!!! I work on a checkout at a supermarket sweetheart. FTL is often caused by a serious mental health condition, such as a generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) or agoraphobia. Stop wallowing in guilt. How did things work out? Understand that over-indulgence is one of the most insidious forms of child abuse, according to Dr. Phil. Push to be part of your community. Tell your parents that you need 3 more years and youll be off on your own. Didnt join an organization or anything like that. If you live to ski, then work in such a way so you can ski. How is that at all non-practical? Every coin has its own pros and cons and unfortunately it may not be easy for us to inspire everyone or make it in our society, but we do have a place and when we find it, its usually somewhere special. Please help,.what should I really do? The idea that you must either do the thing you love most for a career or live in misery is a false dichotomy. Well, okay, its not. Using Meditation. Yeah, they exist. Dont push in any one thing over 75%. Nurture them and hold them dear. Scoop these up like little gems and remind yourself of their existence. Here are some things to keep in mind: Unemployment is a normal part of life for millions of decent people. Become a veterinarian. Btw, my education background was: I graduated with double-degree in Business Finance & Management, back in 2002 (8 years ago), which unfortunately, Ive always found NOT much passion/interests in these two majors. Or more tragically and universally true: they need to take any job possible as they are starving, supporting a family and have no outside support. 1. Why dont you have a chance in this life? I think you will find any course of action meaningful and contributing to a clearer understanding of who you actually are. Keep up with your music as an outlet and continue to play locally at coffeehouses and the like. Some people dont like to work; they only work to survive. Nope! He genuinely likes the people at the family restaurant where he works, at his university, and his family, friends and fans. There are many jobs out there where you could use your potential without having to lower yourself or your standards. Better to get out there and start being a grown-up now than getting an even bigger shock to your system when youre 40. There are plenty of free spirits out there who still take care of themselves. Sounds like a long road ahead of you, but I sincerely wish you the best of luck. Even a part-time job can be a good step for confidence and movement forward. That is so NOT what I wish I was doing, but reality is that we need to pay the bills. Apathy will not get a person very far. Release the echo of abuse and create new narratives for your life. I have a friend who just finished her schooling to be a Nurse Practioner. Look up Porcupine Tree. Taoism 101 Class Session 1 Deep Dive Into History, Potential Sensing & Working with What Might Be. Have your hobbies, but dont lose yourself 100% on any one thing. What do you really care about? Just let the two different questions simmer after writing down initial answers.
This is a day by day process. I think you should continue to complain about the world. adding to @Thammuz s comment: You will be surprised how much more you like, enjoy, and respect your parents when you are no longer living as a dependent. Two questions: Listen carefully for the difference: To most people, these questions are the same. To join, you must be at least My brother and sister-in-law finally attended one of his concerts. Guess what? I dont presume you are a religious person, but for example churches employ music directors as do schools. Dont wait until youre 40 and wish that you were doing something about your life today. . Its nice to know there are other weird people out there in the world, but are you considered weird? A poet refers to a lifestyle. Stop living from the head up and go out and get life experience, that is. I am 40 years old. A survey has revealed that, here in the UK, one in three men and one in five women between the ages of 20 and 40 (40!) So are you completely financially dependent on your parents? Many people live spiritual lives and follow their dreams. At one point of my life I was very much into eastern/Asian philosophies and what not your post in a way made me reminiscent of that (in which, I thank you!). Using Taoism. These five categories are an excellent starting point to help understand the relationship between ourselves and the reason for working. But seriously. You say you dont like money but lets face it, you need it to live. What will make you truly happy? One thing I see in your comments is the mistake of all or nothing thinking. 
We are told that we are what we do and that we are fully responsible for what we do. Sleeping too much creates depression, and then that sinks you further away from helping yourself. Also know, when unemployment first happens, most people act with fear. In this case, the question should be shifted to: The main reasons to list could be the following, For survival For consuming For serving For passion/belief For the work itself. Many of the other commenters are trying their best to give you dose of reality, but I want to give you a dose of sympathy. Except maybe the very wealthy or those who work in finance. Dont try to re-do what didnt work Decide (reasonably) when you want to be out of your parents house. how one has to work during times of midlife. If you dont belong in your group, it gets rather awkward. They have a mediocre life handed to them. Having to work in order to live sucks. I am only a worker: all I do and will do suddenly gets forced by that one statement. He developed a following in the area, now plays many area and non-area clubs, colleges and universities. Get out of your parents bank account theyll be retiring soon enough, and theyll need that money for themselves. Release the echo of abuse and create new narratives for your life. There is no one like you, and you may feel alone, but you really are not, there are more like you. My point, like @CaptainHarley said, you need to work in order to support yourself, so think of something you can do as a job, and everything else is called hobbies. At 57 my company went belly up and laid everybody off!!! I work on a checkout at a supermarket sweetheart. FTL is often caused by a serious mental health condition, such as a generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) or agoraphobia. Stop wallowing in guilt. How did things work out? Understand that over-indulgence is one of the most insidious forms of child abuse, according to Dr. Phil. Push to be part of your community. Tell your parents that you need 3 more years and youll be off on your own. Didnt join an organization or anything like that. If you live to ski, then work in such a way so you can ski. How is that at all non-practical? Every coin has its own pros and cons and unfortunately it may not be easy for us to inspire everyone or make it in our society, but we do have a place and when we find it, its usually somewhere special. Please help,.what should I really do? The idea that you must either do the thing you love most for a career or live in misery is a false dichotomy. Well, okay, its not. Using Meditation. Yeah, they exist. Dont push in any one thing over 75%. Nurture them and hold them dear. Scoop these up like little gems and remind yourself of their existence. Here are some things to keep in mind: Unemployment is a normal part of life for millions of decent people. Become a veterinarian. Btw, my education background was: I graduated with double-degree in Business Finance & Management, back in 2002 (8 years ago), which unfortunately, Ive always found NOT much passion/interests in these two majors. Or more tragically and universally true: they need to take any job possible as they are starving, supporting a family and have no outside support. 1. Why dont you have a chance in this life? I think you will find any course of action meaningful and contributing to a clearer understanding of who you actually are. Keep up with your music as an outlet and continue to play locally at coffeehouses and the like. Some people dont like to work; they only work to survive. Nope! He genuinely likes the people at the family restaurant where he works, at his university, and his family, friends and fans. There are many jobs out there where you could use your potential without having to lower yourself or your standards. Better to get out there and start being a grown-up now than getting an even bigger shock to your system when youre 40. There are plenty of free spirits out there who still take care of themselves. Sounds like a long road ahead of you, but I sincerely wish you the best of luck. Even a part-time job can be a good step for confidence and movement forward. That is so NOT what I wish I was doing, but reality is that we need to pay the bills. Apathy will not get a person very far. Release the echo of abuse and create new narratives for your life. I have a friend who just finished her schooling to be a Nurse Practioner. Look up Porcupine Tree. Taoism 101 Class Session 1 Deep Dive Into History, Potential Sensing & Working with What Might Be. Have your hobbies, but dont lose yourself 100% on any one thing. What do you really care about? Just let the two different questions simmer after writing down initial answers.